• Are you tired of the yelling, scolding, using of threats or punishments to get your kids to listen?

• Would you want to have more peace and harmony at home and enjoy parenting?

This course is about helping parents to nurture and encourage cooperation and collaboration with children in a respectful by applying the "4 Steps Parent with C.A.L.M. Framework."

We have been blessed with 3 wonderful kids, ages 12, 17 and 18, each with their own unique temperament, personality traits, strengths, and of course, challenges.

Things were not always calm, harmonious and respectful in our household. When the children were younger, I, even as a parenting coach, used to yell, threaten, and even pinched the kid before when I got so angry with the repeated misbehaviour and meltdowns. I even would ignore them for a few days at times because I was still fuming mad inside and refused to talk to them! I was blaming the kids for MAKING me upset, only if they would NOT misbehave, then I would not be so angry!

The methods used back then did not work, well, not for the long term. I would usually 'win' since I was bigger, louder, fiercer. Oh, of course the pinching 'worked' to 'stop' the misbehaviour, but not without an intense fight of 'you can't make me', and ending in a pair of eyes with fierce death-stare looking back at me full of anger and resentment. The cycle would then repeat itself.

What I did not know, as research has shown, was that the screaming and yelling would leave a long term negative impact on the children that could even last a life time on what they think of, and how they feel about themselves. I definitely was not being the role model for managing my emotions well and good problem solving either!

There were often times I also felt pretty lousy about myself too, as a mom.

I knew I was missing something.

Then I made the critical shift in my approach to parent, that came with reading up on parenting books and research materials, attending parenting courses, talking to other professionals...and things began to change.

Fast forward to today. Just a short while back, I asked each of the kid individually, "When was the last time mommy scolded you?" All of them thought for a little while and said, "I don't remember..."

Sounds too good to be true? I get it.

But just what if...

-- It is possible to bring peace, joy, harmony and fun into the home?

-- It is possible to build and nurture a parent-child relationship that is respectful and collaborative?

This "4 steps Parent with C.A.L.M. Framework," along with the skills and strategies when consistently applied, have allowed me to help parents to gain confidence in being a parent, and begin to truly enjoy their parenting journey, and begin to bring peace, joy and harmony back into the home.

I have had the privilege to work and journey with countless parents in the last 24 years as a family counsellor and parent coach, and I have learnt a lot from my clients about parenting. I have also incorporated the learnings on what worked into the course.

I have since shared with parents the approach and taught various strategies from my "4 step Parent with C.A.L.M. Framework" in my private practice with clients and during workshops, and some of them have 𝗮𝗰𝗵𝗶𝗲𝘃𝗲𝗱 𝗿𝗲𝘀𝘂𝗹𝘁𝘀 𝗶𝗻 less than a week and are so amazed by how their kids have changed to be more cooperative willingly, respectful and positive! (See what clients said about their experience in working with me in the course details!)

I want to share with you the exact framework I use to guide my private clients in improving their interactions with their children in this 6-weeks course, and be able to create a parent-child relationship that is nurturing, fulfilling and satisfying.

COURSE DETAILS

📌 A. COURSE TITLE:

“4 Steps to Parent with C.A.L.M. -

Turning Potential Conflict into Purposeful Connection”

For parents with children ages 7 to 11.

📌 B. LEARNING OUTCOMES:

1️⃣ Strategies to understand and manage your own triggers and emotions

2️⃣ Break away from the cycle of conflict and moving into the cycle of connection

3️⃣ Understand the reasons behind why children misbehave, identify the motivations and needs behind the behaviors, and how parents can meet those underlying needs effectively rather than simply managing the misbehaviors

4️⃣ Simple yet effective strategies to respond with compassion during meltdowns that help the child self-regulate over time and build up emotional resilience

5️⃣ Conversation techniques to uncover and discover your child’s underlying needs, hence fostering understanding and connection

6️⃣ 4Es strategies to respond effectively to re-direct the child’s misbehavior to a more positive and desirable direction that encourages the child to learn from the situation and empowers to take responsibility for his/her actions

7️⃣ Setting age-appropriate boundaries, plan and execute respectfully the 5Rs of effective consequences when rules have been compromised

📌 C. COURSE STRUCTURE & DETAILS:

a) 6 weekly 2-hour virtual live sessions

b) Weekly homework assignment to deepen learning and application

c) On-going WhatsApp group support during the course

d) Free E-book: 5 Steps to Raise an Amazing Self-Driven Child

DATES:

Time: Thursdays 7.30pm - 9.30pm

Dates:

1) 05 August

2) 12 August

3) 19 August

4) 26 August

5) 02 September

6) 09 September

📌 D. WHO SHOULD ATTEND:

Who is the course FOR:

✅ Parents who want to build strong parent-child relationship as the basis of effective parenting

✅ Parents who want to be able to use a more gentle, positive and respectful approach to manage misbehavior

✅ Parents who want to stop using the traditional control-based method of yelling, nagging, threatening, even spanking in handling misbehaviors

✅ Parents who have tried the ‘soft’ and the ‘hard’ approach and are ready to try something different

✅ Parents who want more peace, calm, joy and harmony in the house

✅ Parents who want to have an enjoyable parent-child relationship

✅ Parents who want to respond and hold space for their child's strong emotions well and build emotional resilience

✅ Parents who want to love their child lavishly while holding firm boundaries (children need both!)

✅ Parents who know growth and development takes time, a marathon, not a sprint. It is also not just about academic performance

Who is the course NOT for:

❌ Parents looking for quick fix to the child’s behavior

❌ Parents who see the child as being the problem to be fixed and not willing to make adjustments in their own approach

❌ Parents who are on the ‘hunt’ for ‘best discipline tools’ to ‘use’ on the child

❌ Parents who only want to complain about their child’s undesirable behaviors about schoolwork and gadgets and blaming the kids for being lazy

❌ Parents who expect their child to make all the changes

❌ Parents who demand and command obedience from their children

📌 E. WHAT PARENTS SAID ABOUT THE COURSE:

🌟 "This course has helped shift my mindset from being frustrated with my kids' behavior to understanding why they behave that way. And the many handles to pause and connect before I attempt to correct."

🌟 "Chee Siah is a very experience and knowledgable coach in the parenting field and able to provide a very different perspective and offer practical handles on our parenting struggles."

🌟 "This course has been helpful in providing greater awareness of myself as a parent and a deeper and more tender perspective of my child and his needs, which is much needed and wholesome in order to strengthen the parent-child relationship while still strengthening the role of a parent."

🌟 "This course run by Chee Siah has changed my paradigm on parenting and I thought I knew quite a bit!! It has helped me manage my own triggers and find solutions for a better parent-child relationship!"

🌟 "This course provide me with a good framework, both for myself to understand from my own triggers and perspectives plus a more loving approach to parent n child relationship.i am able to pause and think before reacting to my child.still work in progress."

🌟 "Chee Siah is a very experienced and good coach who is able to provide ideas to guide you though the issues in ways which is effective and would never thought before."

🌟 "This is a remarkable course to effectively parent in a process to help groom children to grow as responsible adults."

🌟 "Chee Siah is clear in her presentation, illustrating each point of the C.A.L.M. framework with practical examples. She was also patient in coaching the skill, and answering all our questions. This workshop has been helpful to identify my personal triggers with step by step guidance, and connecting to my children. I would recommend this for parents who are struggling to connect with their children."

📌 F. COURSE FEE:

Course Fee: SGD$228 (Regular Price $268)

Limited time offer - Register by Friday 30 July to enjoy $40 off course fee.

Spouse to attend for free!

*Additional Bonus:

1 session of 1-On-1 private coaching consultation (45mins) after the course for the first 5 registrations received (worth $200).

LIMITED SPACES, register early to enjoy the special rate and join us in the exciting learning journey to Parent with C.A.L.M.! 🥰😊

First-come-first-served!

📌 G. CONTACT

Email : info@connectionsprings.com

FB@ConnectionSprings

See you in the course!

Course Facilitator:

Chang Cheesiah

About Cheesiah

Cheesiah is a marriage and parent coach, founder of ConnectionSprings. She is passionate about keep passion alive in marriages, and helping parents to nurture and empower the next generation to be the best versions of themselves. For over 23 years she has helped parents to do that through her signature coaching program, "4 Steps to Parent with C.A.L.M.," building strong emotional connection, high trust and effective influence through the parent-child relationship.

Cheesiah has been featured and interviewed on various TV programs and radio stations, newspapers and parenting magazines. She was one of the keynote speakers in the Marriage Conventions 2014 and 2015. She was also a keynote speaker for Parenting Congress 2016. She is an approved speaker with the Ministry of Social and Family Development.

A positive person by nature, Cheesiah always enjoys and treasures the simple moments in life, like being able to wake up in the morning with her kids with hugs and kisses, or just have a chat with her husband, or a friend, over coffee. She is happily married for 24 years with 3 lovely children, ages 12, 17 and 18, and she thoroughly enjoys her teenagers!

Cheesiah graduated with a B.Sc. in Biopsychology from the University of British Columbia (Canada) and with a Masters degree majoring in counselling from the Trinity Western University (Canada). She also holds an Advanced Certificate in Training and Assessment (ACTA) from WDA. She is a Certified Behavioral Consultant, also a Certified Brief Solution-Focused Coach.

What Clients said about working Cheesiah:

Parent #1 (Father of 3 boys, aged 10, 13, 15)

My relationship with my teenage son has been very tense and with lots of conflict over device use and school work. Each time I tried to talk to him we ended up in heated argument and I had to call the police once as he was getting aggressive and violent. When I met Cheesiah, I took her coaching advice and did what she recommended. I can’t be happier to say that my relationship with my son has improved considerably. I am so thankful for the coaching I received from Cheesiah. She really saved my relationship with my son.

Parent#2 (Mother of 2, aged 12 and 14)

When my 14-year-old daughter was going through a really rough patch in school with her peers and teachers, I didn’t know how to support her. She went from a cheerful girl to become very withdrawn, sad, crying a lot and refused to go to school. I reached out to Cheesiah and she gave me specific ways and things I could do and say to support my girl with her feelings. It gave me a lot of confidence and assurance to know what I need to do when my daughter was having meltdowns or being very down and negative. I thank Cheesiah for her coaching and allowed me to walk through that very difficult time with my daughter and made our relationship even better after.

Parent#3 (Single mother of 1, aged 16)

Dear Cheesiah, thanks for your help. My girl shared with me two days ago, and our relationship improves. She even initiated to pray with me. Think she’s quite happy. She came to my room and hugged me for the past two mornings too, said good morning to me. Thanks for your coaching and support. I really appreciate it. I have to learn to let go. Must thank you…Think there’s a breakthrough now. A breakthrough am longing for years.

Parent#4 (Mother of 1, aged 7)

Cheesiah’s parenting approach is so different from the performance and results-driven approach that I knew. But as I began to implement bits and pieces of her parenting ideas, I began to see the change in my daughter. She was more receptive to my teaching and become more affectionate with me. She also started to become more responsible for her schoolwork without me reminding her! She was self-motivated! I am now a more ‘chill’ parent, enjoying parenting much more while leaving my kids to do her own work! I get more ‘me-time’ too.

Parent#5 (Mother of 3, aged 16, 18, 20)

Cheesiah’s approach to parenting has been inspirational and transformative! I have been a stay-at-home mom and home-schooled my 3 children. I spend a lot of time with my children and we have been a close knitted family unit. However, I was emotionally intense and didn’t know that it would affect my children negatively. Through the coaching sessions, I learnt that I am responsible for my own emotions and I began to work on my emotional triggers. I am at an emotionally much healthier space now and I feel better, calmer, and more at peace. I have also been able to support my children without getting triggered and becoming reactive as easily. It has made me a better person, a better mom, and a better wife too!

Media Interviews with Cheesiah

TV Interviews

Mar 21, 2021: Leap of Faith