Reclaiming Desire: Where Things Slow Down and Make Sense

This is not about “trying harder.”
Not about performing.
Not about being told to spice things up.

It’s about slowing down enough to notice your patterns, rebuild inner safety, and create the conditions where desire can return — in a way that feels honest, not pressured.

Facilitated by Dr. Martha Tara Lee, Relationship Counselor & Clinical Sexologist, Reclaiming Desire offers a structured, compassionate space to reflect, learn, and reconnect — with no expectation to overshare and no “lecture-style” vibe.

Who this is for

• Women who feel their desire has dropped, changed, or become confusing
• Women who feel tired, stressed, pressured, disconnected, resentful, or “numb”
• Women who are navigating mental load, caregiving, parenting, or constant responsibility
• Women who want practical clarity, emotional steadiness, and healthier boundaries
• Women who want a supportive space that is thoughtful, structured, and trauma-aware

This group is women-only by design, to support safety, honesty, and depth of work.

What this is and isn’t

• Is a guided, therapist-facilitated support group
• Is skills-based, reflective, and grounded in clinical practice
• Includes short teaching segments + guided reflection + optional sharing
• Focused on emotional safety, clarity, and forward movement
• Not therapy
• Not a “fix your libido” bootcamp
• Not a sharing free-for-all
• Not a couples-only program

Structure

• Fridays, 7–10pm (Singapore time)
• 6 consecutive Fridays – 20 Feb to 27 Mar 2026
• Online (Live on Zoom)
• Maximum 8 participants

Fees

• Standard: S$540
• Subsidised: S$378
• Scholarships: 2 fully subsidised places (Application required)

Your registration includes
- Live 3-hour weekly online group session with Dr. Martha Tara Lee (6 weeks)
- A guided weekly structure (brief input → reflection → optional sharing)
- Reclaiming Desire Welcome Pack (PDF): overview, group agreements, prep checklist
- Weekly worksheets (PDF) to track patterns, triggers, and needs (no homework overload)
- “Pressure Off” tools (PDF) for emotional regulation + nervous system settling (simple, doable)
- Boundaries & consent mini-pack (PDF): external boundaries + internal pressure/people-pleasing
- Desire styles + responsiveness guide (PDF): spontaneous vs responsive desire, without pathologising you
- Stress/time/mental load mapping sheet (PDF): so you can see what’s stealing your capacity
- Closing “Desire Conditions Plan” template (PDF) to map what you’ll carry forward after Week 6
Optional Q&A segment each session (participation always optional)
A private email check-in channel for admin/logistics support during the program (not crisis support)

Safety & Confidentiality

• No recording — by facilitator or participants
• No screenshots, screen recordings, or sharing of group content
• Confidentiality agreement required
• Camera on/off supported with guidance
• Participation at your own pace — listening is allowed

This container prioritises emotional safety and consent.

Program Outline

Week 1 — Understanding what changed
• What desire is (and isn’t)
• Mapping your current reality without self-blame
• Setting intentions that are kind and realistic

Week 2 — Pressure, stress, and emotional shutdown
• Why “trying harder” often backfires
• Mental load, fatigue, resentment, burnout
• Simple emotional regulation tools to widen capacity

Week 3 — Consent, boundaries, and the invisible “no”
• Internal consent: what you’re agreeing to without noticing
• External boundaries: with partners, family, work, and expectations
• Reducing “obligation intimacy” dynamics

Week 4 — Desire styles and responsiveness (without labels)
• Spontaneous vs responsive desire in real life
• How safety, trust, and context shape responsiveness
• Rebuilding the conditions for receptivity

Week 5 — Identity, body, and life stage factors
• Body image, hormones, health conditions, and stress physiology
• Life stage complexity: parenting, caregiving, fertility concerns (as relevant)
• Reconnecting with self without forcing performance

Week 6 — Moving forward with clarity
• Your Desire Conditions Plan
• What to keep, what to stop tolerating, what to try gently
• Closure ritual + integration

How to Join

• Submit application here.
• Brief screening call (10–15 minutes)
• Confirmation + payment
• Welcome pack and worksheets sent before Week

Register here, https://www.eroscoaching.com/events/reclaiming-desire/